It is said that there is no black or white in life, but only the variations of grey. This is very right, because it is almost impossible to find the pure extremeness. Most of the people would like to have long, rich and interesting life. But sometimes longevity can bring illness, loneliness and inability to accept changes. The wealth can bring a lot of headache as well, because of greedy relatives, false friends, taxes... Interesting life can bring a lot of stress. So, there is no absolutely positive value in life.
What about negative extremeness. Are they purely negative? The most common answer would be yes. Nobody likes bad food, poor movies, annoying people, bad weather, etc. True, we all would like to feed well, watch excellent movies, to have interesting friends and enjoy nice weather. But we all know that this can happen all the time. Why it is like that?
One of the basic postulates of the economy is that the resources are sparse. Limited resources require good management, in order to use them in most optimal and productive way. Throwing away the resources now means poverty later. Resources ( money, materials, tools, machinery, ... ) requires economical handling.
The same analogy applies to the positive values in our life. We must take maximum from what is good around us, no matter how sparse it is. If we want to utilize positive values to the maximum we need to respect them more. The truth is that we usually take positive values as granted. If something is taken as granted, usually it is not valuated much. What need to be explored in order to take as much as possible from positive things that surround us?
The answer can be – the negative things. Why should this be true? Simply, if we experience bad thing, we will valuate positive things more. The negative thing can help us to calibrate our standards for values. Watching of bad movie can help us to understand how really good the "good movie" is. If we are not satisfied with current incomes, understanding how people live with much lower salary may help us to understand that current situation is not that bad. If we are not pleased with our boss, try to think about your friend’s boss who is much tougher, demanding, with less respectful for people.
The idea is simple. If you want to understand things better, you need to observe them from different angles. How can you truly understand value of something, if you do not know how to benchmark it with something else? How will you recalibrate your standards for values, if you do not know how to compare two extremenesses? Recalibration of your values standards can help you in shaping up your future.
Probably all of you know about examples of people who were born poor, succeeded later in building of fortune, but their spoiled kids ruined everything later. This is very relevant examples of good benchmarking and attitude from one side, and absolutely no understanding and conscious decision making from the other side. The parent who was born in poverty experienced negative aspects of that personal financial situation. This experience helped in building clear understanding and motivation of direction where and how to get away from poverty. But the child, who was born rich, without experience of the poor, does not have clear understanding of source of wealth. Since wealth is taken as granted, spoiled kid will not have the sense for clever spending.
These examples may help you to understand how to valuate things in life. If you have good understanding of real value of certain things, you can make better decision making. You can be more satisfied with the things that surround you. If it is the shiny and nice day around, try to notice it and try to enjoy as much as you can.